HI,
I was in a similar situation. The way I got out of it was to map all my clubs and use a calculator for figuring distance for putting and rough shots. When I was playing a more "seat of the pants" game, I struggle a lot with distance, knowing which club to hit.
When I mapped my clubs, I now had a better idea which club would go how far. I made a chart of all my clubs and how many avatar movements each one has. Divide this by distance to get yardages per avatar movement. Do this for all clubs and you will be able to get closer to the distances you want.
For putting, there are threads that describe different methods of calculating distance and how hard to hit putt.
Unfortunately I don't have the specific threads to lead you to, but you should be able to search or maybe someone will have the specific threads.
I didn't want to use the calculator, but doing the math in my head was not working. lol
Search the forums and you will find a lot of very good advice. Everything I've learned has been through the forum and playing the courses over and over.
Good luck and keep at it.