Gotta agre with some of what was said.
I used to take matches like this and when I did I certainly wasn't doing it to win. I always played alt shot just for fun. The other reason I would take a match like you describe is for the challenge of it.
If I got paired with a TP or below I always knew I was at a disadvatage. Even tho I had my greens, I knew my partner wouldn't have the clubs to deal with some of the long aproaches I was going to leave him or her from the back tees. So I knew to keep us in the game I was going to have to really be on with my scrambling, sand save and putting, which would help me practice those things.
I think you just need to change your expectations about matches like that and go into them with a different point of view