dannymacgp: the friend cannot see me as available - its says available to: no one - in tourney mode - how do i change that
What this means is that you have a tournament still active... Whether you're playing it or not. If you wish to clear this, you will need to enter another tournament (I recommend a free entry for obvious reasons) and either finish it, or should you decide to not finish it, to make sure that you closed the window through the MENU - END GAME instead of just clicking the X in the corner.
I hope that helps.
Have a nice day.