golferguy2018:
i stay online and it does not work for me at all. The best way i found is when someone joins & only name shows up write name down & when they leave re invite them.
Exactly. When that happens it's usually because the invite was accepted while already playing. When you see the invite flashing, wait until it goes away (or hit the X), close what you're doing and accept the invite from the main page-the red flashing "friends" at the bottom.
I got used to looking at that friends list before I go looking for a game. That way you have a few names to give the host if they ask. :-)