pillsy: all that said, i think i've kind of settled in the middle.
That's the result of taking advice and making it work for you. Nice job, P.
@manny-LOL-Welcome to the part of the game that makes you crazy. The only way you're going to know how to aim for the break is by practicing. There are no exact ways to say do this or do that. You have jumped the biggest hurdle by getting the distance right. It sounds like you're doing pretty good there.
It sounds to me like you might not be giving the break enough room. For the longest time I would do the same thing-ding the putt and slide by the hole on the low side. I was pretty consistent doing this and it was aggravating the crap out of me so I decided to aim so that if I missed it would be on the high side, just to see what would happen. Lo and behold, I realized that I hadn't been trusting the break and was aiming too close. Allowing for more break than I thought was there actually helped me learn how to handle the breaks.
A note on missing to steer the putt-if you try this do not move the aim from the default position. 99% of my putts under 5 feet are hit using this method and it works for me.
Lastly, having the confidence to get down in 2 from anywhere on the green is huge. This would mean, for the most part, your first putt is for birdie and the tap-in is for par. The putts will start dropping for birdies, especially if you work on the GIR and distance to the hole stats.
Keep at it manny and when you get frustrated go back and read your original post-the one where you were about to toss the Redwood because you hated it! Look how far you've come. :)