I have everything on default (flash quality - high)
except
all hole in one challenges - off
putter pal , shot pal,, whatever pal - off
I turn my putting grid ON
Surveys and offers - off
Lessons - off
If you are experiencing lag, try turning off - reflections as well
Audio is personal (most of mine are backed right off), apart from "invitation alerts" - off - this will help your meter.
Background loading i have - ON , i beleive it helps a smoother meter. Try it on or off see how you go
Avatar angles i have ON