As previous posters have implied (and said), lowering the meter speed rating from 4 to 3 actually accelerates the speed of the meter. If you want the meter to "FLY", play with the unlimited life "Starter Ball" or one of the 10 cent WGT cheapies with 0.0 meter speed.
If, on the other hand, you are trying to slow the meter - you will have to buy more expensive golf balls. Some of the "Max" balls will give you exceptionally slow meters (5.0 meter speed). The problem is that they don't give you much of anything else (like spin or distance).
If you re-read the threads, you will see that the better players are advocating the use of clubs with the same meter speed. If your driver, 3 wood, and irons all have the same meter speed, you will find that hitting the "ding" will get a little easier simply because of the consistent speed. It is great if your wedges match the other clubs, but as YankeeJim suggests, your mindset changes a bit when you use your wedges (therefore matching meter isn't as important).
I'm not that good, but I try to buy and use clubs with the same meter and adjust the final meter speed with the ball that I use.
Good luck.