In response to the OP, "How far do you go". Well on a first date, maybe we will hold hands unless a great deal of money has been lavished on me, and then I will suggest we go halves, without really expecting to be taken up on that. Sometimes I initiate accidental contact, but more than that I think it's important that two people are on an intellectual parity before all else, and that each understands irony, such as when my bare foot happens to touch their shin under a table, and they havent even done anything wrong.
Now I realise that some folk here will wonder why I am barefoot and assume that I have divested footwear whilst sat to table, however it should be noted that often I leave home barefoot anyway since the very best of shoes are for the very best of occasions. Does wonders for your feets too in preparation for those long tabs across the moor weighted down with 40kg of sundry equipment.
If on the way home after a first date a trip to a local viewpoint is suggested, then I will readily agree and quite happily exit the vehicle(if any) and take a stroll so that the view can, in fact, be enjoyed to the full. It would seem such a waste of a view to me otherwise, and of course is far more preferable to staring at close range to ones watch over the shoulder of your date, and wondering if you can extricate yourself in time for a last game at Wgt to grab those daily daily points.
A second date of course implies that the first date held some kind of promise, and therefore the game plan is entirely different, sometimes requiring subtle shifting of goal posts to suit your immediate purpose. By this I mean that to accept yet another dinner as a date, would be folly and one has to bend the others will into the mould one desires and end up doing something you both actually enjoy. Or as is more often the case, doing something you yourself enjoy and making it so that the other person enjoys it too, whether they like it or not. Lets face it, they have to learn sometime, and the present is no time like it they say.
Should a third date be necessary to achieve ones purpose, then I suggest you have failed in miserable fashion already and should probably move back to the family home and settle yourself with making marmalade for good causes. In fact, it could even be that you ARE one of those good causes.
I have to say though, that I find it odd that we have this genre of thread on a golfing website, but we are all human I expect.
Lizzie xx