After reading your thoughts and questions and then the replies I was once again ashamed to be a member of this site. Most of the people here who bother to answer will try to help all they can.
In one respect we are fortunate to have a small core of very articulate, knowledgeable people who can answer about any question asked..
But unfortunately their information comes with a price. As you are well aware, the price is having to endure a certain amount of ridicule along with the embarrassment that goes with it.
As you have also learned, any comment or rebuttal from you is swiftly rebuked and becomes another of your shortcomings because of your attitude and insensitivity with other people's lives.
At that point nothing you attempt or try to do will succeed so don't even bother.
I have read some of the most informative, well thought out and very well written replies that lost all integrity and sense of direction because of a totally uncalled for smart ass remark. This doesn't happen 100% of the time but probably 97.5%.
Maybe they feel it's necessary in order for people to notice them but the notice comes from their helpful and cognitive answers, not from their belittlement tactics.
I'll close by again repeating this old saying that is as true today as it was yesterday and if this saying applies to any who reads and/or replies to this post, please just put some thought into it.
"Everyone likes a little ass but NO ONE likes a SMART ASS.