Hi PG.
These are actually some very legit concerns. Here is my 2 cents:
1. Lots of talk about this already. The "effect" isnt too bad right now, but it does seem to be swtiched "on" again even if slightly. Big thing here is you are using the worst and least accurate possible clubs, these have more deviations than better clubs, I witnessed this myself after upgrading. If your truly addicted like many of us are and appreciate all the work that went into the game to make it what it is, spending a little to support them and to make your game better shouldnt be an issue.
Having said that, the sooner they ditch the VEM technology the better. (spend the resources on making the game harder in other ways like a 3 click meter and a true handicap system)
2. Yes here again we have the same scenario. I agree with you that even with a crappy ball and crappy wedge you should have some spin, but it seems there is barely any there at all no matter what starter club you use with the free balls. Not much more to say here, not likely they will change this since they need support to continue to bring more courses to the game. All this goodness that makes the game what it is wasnt cheap to set up and it wont be cheap to keep it going and add improvements etc.
3. I am with you here 100%. The rough seems inconsistent at best. Sometimes I chip from the rough and the lie effects it, sometimes it doesnt. Sometimes I pitch from off the green, from the fairway etc and the rough effects it, sometimes it doesnt and my ball goes way too far. You do get much better with practice and there are little tricks you have to learn like using 75% power most of the time but I do contend there are inconsistencies on certian holes, in certain spots, etc. that would be nice if they were 'addressed'.
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No question in my mind skill is rewarded here and thats why I'm still here and will stay, practice pays off no question, I just shot my first 31. Take a look around at the leader boards, same people all the time, that aint luck.
I see you've only been here a week or so, stick around, I guarantee you'll keep improving especially if you upgrade even just a little and if you do, dont buy the Raptures, post in the forum for help.
Happy hitting.