GV, I am not sure if hated is the right terminology, as hate is such a strong word and should be used cautiously.
That said, and as this is the honesty thread, I have always spoken my mind and I have never sought approval or acceptance, probably not to dissimilar to yourself. This is a trait I admire in others, and whilst I may argue against you, should not be construed as hatred.
I will not pander to anyone's whims just for approval - I call things as I see it and if that upsets someone, so be it.
I do believe I inferred that you were either delusional, had the memory of a goldfish, or alternatively had selected memory.
Perhaps all along there was a valid reason, so without knowing that reason, I will retract those comments....oh I can put my hand up and admit fault...tastes like vinegar, but can still do so.
That said, I have never have had an ounce of malice or dislike against you GV, but when I believe someone is wrong or I disagree, I will say so.
As for your diagnosis, I wish you the best. I saw my grandmother suffer, and ironically was endearing (being asked the same question 10 time in as many minutes) but heart-breaking at the same time.
As you say, some moments are good and I was always thrilled that in those good moments came humour, and that is how I choose to remember her.
Conversely I had an aunt who suffered from Motor Neurones - seeing her waste away, having no control over her body was harder, especially when her mind was as sharp as a tack. 24/7 of terror in her eyes.
We do not get a choice in life so what illnesses will afflict us, but if I had a choice of the two, I know which I would choose.
When I get home today GV, I will raise my coffee cup to you......and my thoughts are with you and your family.