When I play stroke games, I like to play in groups of either three or four, because I like the competition of going up against a couple of different folks at once. One issue I've never found the "right way" of dealing with, is when I join a game as the second player.
I don't like to immediately lay down demands on other people's game, so I don't like coming in and saying "3 or 4 please", as it sounds like I'm trying to lay down the rules. But if I say nothing and just wait, often times player 1 will just go ahead and tee off, which sucks because I will immediately leave and there's a chance that it will cost us both reputation % (or however that's calculated these days).
Now, I've always thought that when there's only two players, that player 1 should really ask before teeing off, and sometimes they do, but not all the time.
To me, it seems logical that people looking to play a stroke game would want to play in a group (otherwise I'd just play head-to-head or skins or whatever), but some don't think that way I guess.
I know only a small % of players read the message boards, but just in case anyone happens to see this - if you're a stroke player and you see me as the only other player in the game, please do not tee off, because when the game has loaded you're going to find that you're by yourself.
Anyone else had this same issue?