All i can say here is, common sense is what is needed when running a CC. A CC can be run by more than 1 person, when that CC is tightly knit and tightly run. In normal circumstances, a good CC run as good as that will have many members looking after the run of things, and that leads to a democracy if all members have a say in how thing are run.
In my opinion, a good CC will ask members for ideas on how to run things. But that is not a bad reflection on how things are run in that CC, but merely a way of getting members involved.
There are rules to be adhered to in most CC's, but what can you expect when people put time and effort into running something that takes a lot of time and effort to do? I think i can say with my hand on my heart that most folks that run a CC put a lot of effort into running things, and if thats the case, then they should be given a bit of respect for the effort that is made to keep the game interesting along with the other members and helpers that go with that CC.
If this is not happening with your CC, then im sorry to say that its probably not the right CC to be in.
In saying that, the response you got from your CC owner is pure b*llshit, and its probably the best thing that happened that you got away from that club. A little research will help you find what it is you are looking for, as many different CC's run in different ways. Good luck in your search.