You may just have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince (or princess, whatever). There are some persuasive recruiters out there who make their club sound awesome but when you get there it doesn't meet your expectations. Lots of clubs carry a bit of dead weight, especially when they have hundreds of members but I cant imagine any club has full active participation of all its members.
However in the words of JFK, think not what a club can do for you but what you can do for a club. Just one extra member can make a huge difference if he is prepared to be engaging, active, helpful etc.
Best of luck.