Very interesting thread. Classy way of resolving it all round. My props to Helen, Imperial and Icon.
One thing emerged that I thought bears examining: why is it that so many people were up in arms about the fact that this was levelled at a female player? The word in question is not gender-specific, yet quite a few comments were about how this is disrespectful to our female members and how so many male players are abusive and so on. It almost implies that, if it were a guy, it would have been ok? But because it was a woman it is somehow worse?
For me, any kind of abusive or disrespectful word or behaviour should be the issue. Doesn't matter from who, or to who.